Friday, June 8, 2012

Laughter IS the best medicine

Today I was having a pity party...actually all week I was. Those of you that have been or are LDS, single, living in Utah, surrounded by family and friends that have been happily married since they were 21will understand what I mean when I say...being single sometimes is no fun. I am happy with my life. I have had to learn how to be. I go on fun trips, I buy nice things for myself, I stay out too late, sleep in later the next morning and don't have anyone to worry about besides myself. Sounds great right? It is great! But then there are those moments when you just feel you would trade all of that just to have the companionship that we have been taught to strive for our entire lives as active Latter-day Saints. Each time a relationship or potential relationship doesn't work out, I think as many of you may also, "Really? I have to start over again?"Again, those of you that have truly or are "singles" understand exactly what I mean, the rest of you can try to understand but unfortunately won't understand the dread of those words. Like I said, I was having a major pity party about having to start over again. So sick of dating and yet feeling guilty because A. I'm not alone and B. there are older singles than me that have been doing this longer. I was ready to just throw on some sweats and go to sleep while my friends went out country dancing. I told them, I would go next time. This is where true friendship comes into play. My friend Dan told me, let's get you an energy drink and go dancing. He even said he will drink double what I do. Now, yes this might be one of those careless "single" person things to do, but the spontaneity of the offer was enough. It was the best decision I made. Now my friend Brittany, upped the ante. She said he needed to drink double what both of us did. This left our poor friend drinking a lot :). Why? So I would go out and quit feeling sorry for myself. It ended up being one of the best nights I have had! We were a little wired but I have never laughed, cried (from laughing), smiled and cared less about what I looked like while dancing. Trust me it probably wasn't a pretty sight. Tonight really helped me to realize a few things. First, laughter does chase away your sorrows. Second, feeling sorry for yourself just makes you feel worse and not better. Third, friends are a gift from our Heavenly Father, especially us "singles." Having someone that understands that you just need to forget sometimes is the best gift I could have ever gotten. I know all of our fun wasn't just for me, but it was just what I needed. My friends were there for me when I needed them. I love you guys. Thanks Dan for the initial boost and thanks to Jake, Kami, Brittany, Ange, Jared, Shad, Rachel and now Collin (hopefully we didn't scare you away) for one of the best nights! Tonight reminded me that you really must find joy in the journey no matter what hardships may fill it.